We’re getting back into our “25 Questions for a New You” today and asking ourselves about the 5 people we spend the most time with. Do they enable your bad habits? Do they bring drama into your life?
I was thinking about this recently when trying to understand why I didn’t begin content creation sooner. I always had the passion for beauty and fashion, and it would have benefitted me if I had started years ago. I realized that for so many years, I didn’t have the right people around me. I didn’t get supportive, ambitious, positive friends until I became an adult. Some things you don’t realize until you look back on them. That’s why I’m here to help you figure it out NOW.
If you blame yourself already for the situations you’ve been in or for not accomplishing things earlier in life, I want you to forgive yourself. You’re always learning and growing, and you didn’t have the hindsight back then like you do now. It’s never too late to cut everyone off, make new friends, and find the right environment for yourself.
I don’t necessarily agree with people that say you have to surround yourself with more successful people than you. I don’t think it’s healthy to judge a person’s ability to be a good friend to you based on what they own or how much they have in the bank. Even “friends in high places” can stop you from being your best self. I’m wanting you to protect your energy and decide who makes you feel like you’re loved and true to yourself.
Think of the five people you spend the most time talking to, listening to, or hanging out with and ask yourself these questions:
- Will they hold you accountable when you’re wrong, and praise you when you’ve done something good? Anyone that lies, is sneaky, or has ulterior motives in any situation (not just with you) is bad news. You want honesty and integrity in a friend. Someone who can give you their real emotions and advice during bad times and be happy for you in good times.
- Are they still your friend when you’re not around? Eliminate “fake friend” and “true friend” from your vocabulary. To protect yourself, you need to lose the ambiguous idea of what a friend is. Only call someone a friend if they’re 100% loyal when you’re not around. If they have complaints about you, they tell it to your face instead of discussing it behind your back. Your friend isn’t going to hang around someone that’s hurt you, spoke badly of you, or doesn’t like you.
- Are they working towards a goal? I don’t want you to think of how close they are to their goals or how hard they’re working towards it. I want you to be around strong individuals who strive to be better by their own terms. And to be a good friend, you need to be their support system and offer motivation when they need it. Whether your goals align or not, you can better understand if you two are compatible as buddies.
Don’t underestimate the power of a good group of friends! If you have any questions or want some more advice, you can ask me while I’m LIVE on TikTok ♡
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